Maybe you know you’re hard on yourself. Or maybe you think you love yourself, yet you tend to give yourself up in relationships – or get involved with abusive, critical women. If you ever find yourself feeling scared to express a feeling, ask for what you want, or show people “the real you,” you ... Read More
Is She Really Out There?
Many women we talk to and work with feel as if they will never find the person they are looking for. They are discouraged, and some have even given up looking altogether. We actually think that there is someone for everyone, but there are things that get in the way. First, there are beliefs about ... Read More
Quiz: Do You Have A Broken Picker?
If you have a "broken picker," it means you pick the wrong women - an all-too-common issue which leads to pain, confusion and despair about relationships. There are a number of different reasons why your "picker" might be malfunctioning. So, ask yourself the following questions: 1) Am I clear on ... Read More
Not ready for new love yet? That’s great! Here’s why.
We love it when a woman tells us, "I'm just not ready for a new relationship yet". When you say that, it shows us that you're really listening to signals inside yourself. If you know you're still hurt or angry about your last breakup, or you're just having a great time being single - we totally ... Read More
Is It OK Not To Want a Relationship?
Sometimes women seem kind of embarrassed or hesitant when they ask us this question. "Is it OK to not want a relationship? Can that be healthy?" Our answer is: of course! We're here to support you in getting what you most want in your relationship life. The truth is, all humans need ... Read More
No, it’s not just “Self-esteem”: Self-love and Self-compassion Are Necessary
You hear "self-esteem" as an important thing to have. There are countless books, programs, and articles on how to boost it. Don't get me wrong, it isn't a bad thing, but it's only a tiny slice of the picture. A few days ago, I (Michelle) was sitting on the phone with a client who was taking our ... Read More
Your secret remedy against heartbreak: Self-love.
As Conscious Girlfriend coaches, we hear so many stories about women breaking other womens' hearts. For instance: Jill broke up with Nadine just weeks before their wedding, with no explanation. Felicity let Keisa support her through years in prison, then dumped her for someone else when she ... Read More
Why Self-love?
One of the things we emphasize a lot in workshops and in our teleclasses is how important self-love is in creating and sustaining healthy, happy relationships. For some women we talk to, this seems surprising. In my (Michelle's) experience, both in my own life, and in coaching many women ... Read More
Dating at 50+ – How is It Different?
Many of the single women we work with are over 50 - and quite a few are over 60, or even over 70. So one thing we hear a lot is, "How do I date now?" In some ways, dating never changes. The desire to love and be loved - and the nervousness about possible rejection - may stay the same no matter what ... Read More
When “we” changes “me.”
If you've been in relationships before, you know that one of the things that happens is that you change because of it. That's inevitable. The question is, how do you change, and is it a good thing or not so good? And what do you do if the change is negative? There is a new psychological model ... Read More