Do you ever worry that there’s something about you that prevents you from being able to find the love you want? Something that either keeps you single, or getting into the wrong relationships? If so, you’re not alone. Many of our clients and students share that fear.
We’ve heard worries like this:
I’m too old. All the good ones in my age group are taken.
I’m too young. Most women in my peer group don’t have these skills, and older women don’t take me seriously.
I have too many health problems.
My income is too low.
I’m not in good enough shape.
There aren’t enough lesbians in my town/city/state/province/country.
I’m bisexual (or a transwoman, or I came out later in life), so most lesbians aren’t open to being with me.
I’m not attractive enough.
I’m too screwed-up. My childhood was too unhappy. There’s just something wrong with me.
We’ve heard many more fears along these lines – far too many to list here. But we can pretty much promise you this: whatever you’re worried about is not what’s keeping you from love. There are so many women out there looking for deep companionship, mutual support, caring, connection, and intimacy – and none of the above characteristics take anything away from your ability to receive that kind of love, or to give it.
Sure, there are some women out there who might not be interested in you because of one of the factors listed above. But there are many more for whom it won’t be a barrier – once you know how to find the right partner, and how to be the right partner. So, our message to you is: whatever your particulars might be, you’re not single because there’s something about you that a partner couldn’t accept.
You’re single because you’re not ready for the kind of love you want.
How do we know? Because we’ve seen over and over that when someone is ready, love shows up.
No matter what your specific circumstances are, being able to find the right partner and have a lasting, healthy, fulfilling relationship is an inside job. Whether you’re single or coupled, you create your relationship life every moment of every day, through your thoughts, choices and actions. You are the one who determines whether or not you choose the right woman, and whether or not the relationship can be fulfilling and joyful.
No one can do it for you. But no one can stop you, either!
If you need some support in making the changes that will lead to the outcomes you really want, we’re here to help.