Yes, it IS possible to have a happy, healthy, long-term lesbian or queer relationship! And this video, the first of a series made by Drs. Michelle Murrain, a neuroscientist and Buddhist, and her partner Ruth L. Schwartz, a therapist and professor, will tell you how to get there. Despite the letters after their names, Drs. Murrain and Schwartz are 100% real and vulnerable as they tell the story of getting to their happy partnership “the hard way,” after decades of painful relationships and breakups. Now, they have combined their 50+ years of relationship experience into a system they call Conscious Girlfriend, which aims to “make love easier for lesbian and queer women.” Video 1, “How Can We Stop Fighting?” introduces the couple’s powerful system for resolving conflicts while deepening intimacy (hint: it doesn’t involve fighting OR processing!)